Why Am I So Emotionally Numb?

There comes a point when your heart feels like it’s locked behind an invisible door. You smile, laugh, and respond to the world but the depth, the fire, the color of your emotions seems muted. You feel disconnected from yourself, from others, from the life you once felt so vividly. You ask quietly, almost in desperation: “Why am I so emotionally numb?”

Emotional numbness is rarely born overnight. It is the result of layers upon layers of exhaustion, hurt, and unprocessed pain. Burnout seeps into the soul when you’ve given too much, too much love, too much energy, too much of yourself, without receiving anything in return. It’s the body and mind’s way of protecting you, of saying, “You’ve endured enough; now you must pause.”

Yet this pause feels terrifying. You may fear you are broken. You may fear that feeling nothing is permanent. You may fear that if you cannot access your emotions, you will never heal, never love fully, never live authentically again. But numbness is not the end, it is a signal. It is your spirit’s way of asking for gentleness, rest, and patience.

Reconnecting with your feelings begins with small steps. Notice the sensations in your body, the tightening in your chest, the heaviness in your shoulders, the fluttering in your stomach. Name them without judgment. Allow yourself to cry when a song, a memory, or a thought stirs something buried. Journal your thoughts, even if they feel disconnected. Speak to yourself as you would to a wounded child: kindly, patiently, tenderly.

Emotional reconnection is not instant. It is slow, careful, and sometimes uncomfortable. But it is worth it. Every tear you shed, every vulnerability you allow, every quiet acknowledgment of your pain, is a step back into your own heart. It is proof that you are alive, that your spirit refuses to stay frozen, that your soul wants to feel again.

You may feel scared, frustrated, or impatient. That is okay. Healing is not linear, and emotional reconnection requires trust, trust in yourself, in your resilience, and in the process of letting your heart breathe again. Remember, numbness is not your identity. It is a chapter, not the conclusion. And slowly, gently, you will feel again.

💌 Family, I’m so excited to share this with you. My newest book, A Heart Made for Holding, is now published. It’s the first in The Hands that Carry Us Series, and it holds a story so close to my heart, one I know many of you will see yourselves in.

But this isn’t my only work. I’ve also published Somewhere Along the Way, I Stopped Living for Myself and Started Living for the People Who Don’t Even See Me, and The Awakening of Readiness. Each book carries its own heartbeat, one about honesty and heartbreak, the other about stepping into change when your spirit finally feels ready.

And now, with A Heart Made for Holding, we begin a series that will continue with more books to come.

All of these are available right now on Amazon, just search the titles, and you’ll find them there.

For anyone who has ever carried too much, loved in silence, or survived when survival itself felt like defiance, these books are for you.